How To Avoid Negative People In Life
Learning how to avoid negative people is something we all must do from time to time. However, sometimes we just can’t avoid a negative person because they are either in our circle of friends or we work with them. Dealing with negative people can take its toll on us in many ways. We all know of a negative person who just drains us from the moment we meet them.
These are the types of people who will give us a news update of all the terrible things they’ve just seen on the morning news. Watching the news can be depressing sometimes and we certainly don’t need someone else to give us a running commentary on just how awful things are. When you meet a person like this, it is sometimes best to avoid them altogether or if we can’t then we’ll need to learn how to avoid negative people in your life.
When we try to avoid negative people we will run into all sorts of problems. Firstly the person who we are trying to avoid will pick up on it and will wonder what’s going on. Secondly, any other friends in your circle will also pick up on it and will wonder what’s going on. They’ll say things like, “he’s harmless” or he’s an OK guy etc. So does this mean you should still hang out together? Sometimes it’s best to deal with negative people rather than avoiding negative people for the sake of the group.
Being around negative people doesn’t need to be such a drain as long as you know how to deal with them. Firstly it’s important to know that negative people are negative for a reason. They have a problem which they can’t deal with internally for some reason so they express it externally. The reasons for this type of behavior are countless so there’s no point in trying to psychoanalyze someone who is constantly negative. Instead we need to use a little tact to deal with them by using positive techniques and eventually this may change their behavior.
As people experience negative emotions they will either internalize them or express them in other ways. When we meet people who can’t deal with their own problems they will invariably express this with a negative attitude. To counter this we need to follow a simple set of rules which will get this negative person off our back.
Managing Negative People
1: Always make sure that there are at least three people in the conversation. This will open up the conversation to more possibilities and will limit the amount of negative thoughts creeping into the conversation.
2: Once you see the negative people signs then don’t get into an argument with them over some frivolous topic. Agree with them on some points but don’t set them off on a spiral. Negative people have lots of time to think so they’ll have several different answers to anything you can throw at them.
3: Avoid talk about work. Talking about work on a night out can be a real downer even if you aren’t a negative person to begin with. So keep the conversation light, talk about things which are uplifting so that these people with negative energy can’t complain. Positive Affirmations can help you deal with these these people.
These tips are handy for anyone who is either living with negative people or has to deal with negative people at work. You can’t avoid these people because they are in your life circle so you’ll need to deal with them. However, if you don’t live or work with these people then there is no real reason why you have to put up with them.
If this is the case then you’ll need to think about getting rid of negative people out of your life. Its sounds harsh but negative energy people will only drag you down with them so sometimes it’s best to just cut the cord and move on with your life.
Never listen to negative people. I know you might find it easier speaking to other peers going through the same negative experiences but listening too much can be a bad thing.